Imagine ... you meet a client who, every time he talks about his business, stresses the importance of authenticity. He goes on and on about how customers value honesty, how staff appreciate transparency, and how brands must be genuine to survive in today’s world. It sounds good, doesn’t it? You nod along.
But here’s the twist: this very same client has, for years, been using AI-enhanced profile photos on every platform. The photos make him look 20 years younger, slimmer, and more handsome than he really is. No wrinkles, no grey hairs, no sign of the person you meet in real life.
Now ask yourself - would you have trust in this person?
It’s not about the fact he wants to look good. We all want to put our best foot forward. The problem is that he preaches authenticity while living the opposite. That’s what people notice. And once people see that gap between what you say and what you do, trust begins to vanish.
Authenticity isn’t something you switch on and off like a light. It isn’t saying the right thing one minute and doing the opposite the next. True authenticity is consistent - it carries through every part of your behaviour, whether you’re at work, at home, on the pitch, or in the classroom.
Let’s dig into why being authentic really matters, and how real-life examples—from sport, professional life, personal life, and academics—reveal the difference between genuine behaviour and a performance.
Authenticity in Sports: When Words and Actions Don’t Match
Sport is one of the clearest stages for authenticity—or the lack of it. Fans and teammates can see straight through empty gestures.
Example 1: The hollow apology after a tournament win
Imagine you win a tennis tournament. But here’s the catch: you didn’t really “win” through your own effort. Your opponent retired after only 20 minutes because of heat exhaustion and fever. You step up to the mic and say something like this, with a serious face:
“I’m so sorry this had to happen. I would have loved to compete properly, and I really respect my opponent.”
Those are the right words. They sound empathetic. But then, a few hours later, your social media shows a very different picture: you parading through the city with your trophy, laughing, posing, and soaking up the glory with your team.
Now, what do people think? The words and the actions don’t align. Either you were truly sorry—or you weren’t. When you try to play both sides, you come across as insincere. Fans don’t remember the words; they remember the contradiction.
Example 2: The player who stays true
Contrast that with athletes who truly embody authenticity. Think about Marcus Rashford campaigning for free school meals in the UK. He didn’t just tweet once and disappear; he consistently put in effort, talked about his personal experience of growing up with food insecurity, and stood his ground even when criticised. His actions matched his words. That’s why people trusted him—not just as a footballer, but as a person.
In sport, authenticity isn’t about perfection. It’s about consistency. If you say you value respect, then show it on and off the pitch. If you claim humility, then don’t chase the spotlight at every turn.
Authenticity in Professional Life: The Workplace Mirror
In professional settings, authenticity—or the lack of it—affects not just reputation, but also team dynamics and leadership.
Example 1: The “authentic leader” with AI photos
Back to the client with AI-generated profile pictures. He tells his team, “We should always be honest with our customers.” But what does his behaviour signal? That he values image over truth. That he wants to appear younger rather than embrace who he really is. It may sound trivial, but in business, these little inconsistencies spread. Staff begin to question: If he’s dishonest about his photos, what else might he be hiding?
Authenticity in leadership means aligning your message with your behaviour. If you tell your employees to be open, but you hide behind filters, you’ve already broken the mirror.
Example 2: The manager who admits mistakes
On the other hand, consider a manager who openly admits when they’ve got something wrong. Imagine they launch a project, it doesn’t go as planned, and instead of shifting blame, they gather the team and say:
“I miscalculated the scope. That’s on me. Here’s what I’ve learned, and here’s how we’ll adjust.”
That kind of honesty builds trust. People don’t expect leaders to be flawless. They expect them to be real. Authenticity here doesn’t mean weakness—it means courage.
Authenticity in Personal Life: The Friend Test
In our personal lives, authenticity is perhaps even more noticeable. Friends and family know us too well for us to hide behind pretence.
Example 1: The empathetic friend… for show
Picture this: you’re going through a tough time, and a friend says all the right words. They message, “I’m here for you, mate. Anything you need, just ask.” Lovely words. But when you do reach out—maybe you ask for a coffee, or a quick chat—they’re suddenly too busy. Again and again.
That’s not authenticity. That’s performance. And over time, you learn that their empathy exists only in words, not in action.
Example 2: The small, consistent actions
Now think of the friend who doesn’t make a big show of being supportive. They don’t send long, flowery messages. Instead, they simply show up. They drop by with your favourite snack. They send you a daft meme just to make you smile. They ask once a week, “Fancy a walk?”
That’s authenticity. It’s small, consistent, and genuine. Not for display, not for likes, but because they mean it.
Authenticity in Academic Life: Learning Beyond the Textbook
Even in education, authenticity is key. Students and teachers both notice when behaviour doesn’t match words.
Example 1: The lecturer who pretends to care
Imagine a lecturer who tells students:
“My door is always open. Come to me with any questions.”
Sounds great. But when a student does come, the lecturer sighs, glances at the clock, and rushes through answers. The message? “I said I was available, but I don’t actually mean it.” Students see right through it.
Example 2: The teacher who admits limitations
Now consider a teacher who gets asked a question they can’t answer. Instead of bluffing, they smile and say:
“You know what, I don’t know. Let’s find out together.”
That’s authenticity. It shows humility, and it models genuine learning. Students feel safe, respected, and inspired, because they’re not being sold an illusion of perfection.
Why Authenticity Matters Everywhere
What’s the common thread across all these examples? Authenticity isn’t about being flawless, or being brutally honest in ways that hurt others. It’s about alignment.
When your words, actions, and values line up, people trust you. When they don’t, people start asking questions. And once trust cracks, it’s hard to glue it back together.
Let’s be clear: authenticity doesn’t mean oversharing. It doesn’t mean exposing every flaw. It simply means not pretending to be someone—or something—you’re not. People are smarter than we sometimes give them credit for. If you show empathy one moment and selfishness the next, if you apologise publicly but party privately, if you preach honesty but hide behind filters—people notice.
So ask yourself: who do you think you’re fooling?
How to Cultivate Authenticity
Be consistent. If you say sorry, mean it—and act accordingly.
Drop the mask. Don’t pretend to be younger, smarter, or kinder than you are. Show up as yourself.
Own your mistakes. Admitting when you’re wrong makes you more credible, not less.
Show small actions. Authenticity isn’t proved in grand gestures, but in consistent behaviour.
Align words and values. If you preach openness, live it. If you say you value empathy, demonstrate it even when it’s inconvenient.
Closing Thoughts
Authenticity isn’t glamorous. It doesn’t always look polished. But it’s the glue that holds trust together—in sports, in careers, in friendships, in education.
So next time you’re tempted to put on a show—to say you’re sorry while secretly celebrating, to preach honesty while hiding behind a perfect filter—remember this: people can see through it.
And when they do, the question they’ll silently ask is the same one I started with: who do you think you’re fooling?
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